We go through our lives trying to find, figure out, and fix relationships. Whether that be with parents, friends, relatives, or romances. Yet we still long for that perfect relationship with each person we meet. We forget that no relationship is always going to be perfect because believe it or not we are all human and we screw up from time to time. We even screw up the biggest relationship of all which is the one we should have with the one who not only created us, the earth, and the universe, but also died for us. We being a lost cause was found cause worthy by our creator that he would redeem us with a sacrifice like no other. His son for our sin. Anyway, we start off early in our lives on our relationship quest.
Yes, that's right from the moment we can communicate with anyone or anything we are trying for that perfect relationship. Our parents who are placed over us to guide us want to be our best friends yet also have the authority to punish us when we have a human moment. This we don't like so we rebel. And so the cycle goes. Yet at some point early on we want to do everything we can to please them. To make them proud of us and to give us what we want and long for which is unconditional love. Little do we know that that's exactly what they are giving us when they punish us. Yet, we move on and begin to grow.
School starts time to be thrown into the pool of friends that will help us, stab us in the back, then help us on down the road. We try to fit in we create cliques that shun people that aren't like us that don't meet our standards. The friends we do have we want them to be proud of us and to once again be unconditional lovers of us. We get along great until all the issues that we should have been talking about all along blow up in our faces. True friends work it out, acquaintances throw you to the curb then splash mud in your face when they peel off. Yet, during this time we find one relationship that we all want which is an intimate one with the opposite sex.
We enter the dating game. First off which is now a days coined the honeymoon period both are extremely happy. They let the little things slide cause they are just so caught up in each other. However, that period is never lasting. Finally, all the things that weren't said come out feelings get hurt and both are unhappy. To the ones that were only in it for the honeymoon period the split is harsh and leaves deep scars on both. To those who know that they want things to continue work through it and compromise so that they will once again find happiness in the relationship. All along the way we have one relationship that if accepted last forever. It is the ultimate couples relationship. It was there before time began and will be there when time ends. God and man.
Recently, I have been dealing with the third situation. My girlfriend and I have been in the honeymoon period. Now we are being plunged into the next period which quite frankly isn't fun for either of us. However, this is the challenge we face. On my half I know that I haven't handled it in the best possible way. I have screwed up time and time again while trying to make the transition. Even though being hurt isn't always a bad thing I think what I have done has not been for the better but for the worst. Even more recently I sat down with my best friend and we had a long discussion on how to make it work and how I can be better at my half of the argument. I gleaned a lot from this discussion. Now I am willing to take that next step and ask for forgiveness for my own foolishness. My relationship with God has suffered because of my stubbornness as well.
Thank you for listening I don't have any advice to show how to make it through these situations because I haven't been through them all myself yet. However, I will tell you put you heart in the hands of God and trust only in Him and you can make it through anything.
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